List of lightning wallets: https://github.com/lnbook/lnbook/blob/develop/02_getting_started.asciidoc#lightning-wallets

List of DIY-Lightning nodes: https://www.lopp.net/lightning-information.html#diy_nodes

I use Raspiblitz for my node, and I connect Zeus wallet to it to spend via my node. Together, those two make for a good LN operator experience, but there's multiple ways to execute.