So some background. I make good money, more than double what my wife makes at her work. I never throw that up because I feel we both contribute to the family in many ways. I put in a ton of hours and she is 40 or less and has way more flexibility to take kids to appointments and things like that.

So she wanted a nice SUV (like every high end feature that exists) and I said sure, and we found what she wanted and put a huge amount down, and financed the rest. I have two vehicles...one is an old beater truck we use for hauling things, the other is a more modest car...some features but nothing way expensive. The SUV was very expensive...there is no chance she'd afford it without my salary contribution.

So the other day she was on me about driving "her" vehicle when I have to run places sometimes. And she's correct...sometimes I take the nice vehicle on a quick trip to the post office or something like that, otherwise it's hers. Well this irritated me something fierce because I pay for the thing too. I said something of the tune of "Listen, you'd never have a vehicle that nice without all the time and work I put in to make the salary I make, so if I want to drive it, I'm driving the damn thing." She then let go of the argument and didn't say anything else.

I feel like a jerk because I never throw that in her face, but I was really mad that she feels that I am not entitled to use something I'm paying a lot of money for. AITAH?