I collect these in my bookmarks. If I get better at github, I'll create an "awesome lightning selfhosted" or something:

https://start9.com/ https://mynodebtc.com/products/community_edition https://runcitadel.space/ https://ronindojo.io/ https://docs.btcpayserver.org/ https://ln.tips/ https://mynodebtc.github.io/coinjoin/joinmarket.html https://ezno.de/ https://mynodebtc.com/

My next thing will likely be something like the parmanode script or doing a bare server install.