I don't think I'm mean to myself but i'm a real lil bitch so what do I kno———WAAAIT A SECOND.

Seriously though, I'm a big sceptic of these kind of "studies" (how did they measure that people speak 16000 words? is it 5 sigma certain?...). How am I supposed to know how I speak to myself, why would I devote attention to that?

From what I've learned (from Dr Jordan Peterson, who's expertise is in no doubt), thinking introspectively, thinking about yourself, is about as close to physically hurting yourself as you can get.

I'd say a more fruitful strategy is to try to live an honest life and gain enough competence to be able to protect your family and friends, try to build a family, that's a better way to become happy than to try to be nice to yourself.