It's sad, but I keep them superficial, weather-like conversations, even though even the weather is becoming a controversial subject now :(

Your post also reminded me of something I wrote a while ago, unfinished and never published...

In The Second Realm Book on Strategy, there is the concept of a First Realm (that I loosely interpret as "normie-land"). This realm full of NPCs (Non-Player Characters) is where most of us are officially identified by the State and have to maintain personal and/or work relationships.

The Second Realm is where we thrive; it should be composed of independent freedom cells where a Web of Trust can easily be enforced (under 150 people, see Dunbar's Number). Note that each of those cells could exist in a physical and/or digital form.

Our identity in the First Realm should be strongly separated from our profiles/pseudonyms in the Second Realm. We should control what each network knows about us and how much we are part of other networks.

Every relationship in the First Realm is considered weak and/or untrusted, while relationships in the Second Realm are strong and trusted, based on principles, meritocracy, recommendations, and consistency.

https://archive.org/details/second-realm-digital