Escrow.

You pay the sats, which have an expiration date that allow for a bit of delays in processing.

You request signature when the goods are delivered. This signature releases the funds to the merchant.

If no delivery was registered at the deadline, the funds are automatically sent back to the purchaser.

Use a built-in escrow service or use an external one. Something like this:

You can have an identity that is not tied to your real identity.

We are doing a with multisigs between friends. In a 2 of 3 the third party can arbitrate if trust is broken. The longer the multisig is alive and the more bitcoin the more trust. So this can be a requirement for a seller and you create a mesh of trusted sellers.

Check out robosats, I think they tackle a similar problem

You don't need trust, as long the conversation is going to smooth and you like to chat with other, that's building our Trust. I believe that on #nostr

Thank you very much you all for your reply ill check them tomorrow morning... 0:40 in Spain 🥱🥱🥱