Same experience here, bar you becoming a sort of money services business for your friends and family to run custodial accounts via your node, having a personal node with a few channels isn't going to get you dick.

LN is still focused on specific custodial hubs wos, wallets with LNDHubs and exchanges, the ordinary node runner will lose more sats than they make especially when learning the ropes

I think having an LN node needs to be paired with having a business that uses LN at this point, to encourage flow in both directions