Let me walk through the second hook completely. Where it comes from, how it catches you, both sides of it, real examples of what it looks like, and how to get free.

Where It Comes From

Genesis 3. The garden. Everything has gone wrong.

Adam and Eve ate the fruit. Their eyes opened. They hid. God called out to them. Adam said he was afraid.

Then this:

"The man said, 'The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.'" — Genesis 3:12

Adam blames Eve. And blames God. "The woman YOU gave me."

Then Eve:

"The serpent deceived me, and I ate." — Genesis 3:13

Not "I chose." Not "I messed up." Not "I'm sorry." Blame. Pass it off. Someone else's fault.

That's the second hook.

What This Hook Actually Does

This hook didn't just catch Adam and Eve. It catches every person in every generation since. It's woven into human nature. It's the default setting of fallen humanity.

The hook is simple: as long as you can blame someone else, you never have to change.

It's the ultimate escape hatch from accountability. And everyone uses it.

How It Shows Up in Everyday Life

We do this constantly without even noticing.

When we're late, it's traffic. Not that we didn't leave early enough.

When we mess up at work, it's bad instructions. Not that we didn't ask questions.

When we hurt someone, it's that they're too sensitive. Not that we were careless.

When we're stuck in life, it's our parents, the system, our boss, our circumstances, our trauma. Not that we've made choices that keep us there.

Sometimes the blame is legitimate. Sometimes others really did fail us. But the hook doesn't care about legitimacy. It cares about keeping us stuck. Because as long as you're focused on who did what to you, you never have to look at what you're doing now.

The Victim's Side of the Hook

For those who've been genuinely hurt, this hook twists inward in a cruel way.

It whispers: "Maybe I deserved it. If I had been different. I shouldn't have. It was my fault."

This is the hook turned against yourself. It makes you carry guilt that was never yours to carry. It keeps you small, ashamed, and stuck in what happened to you rather than moving into who you're becoming.

Abusers love when their victims pick up this version of the hook. It lets them off the hook entirely.

The Abuser's Side of the Hook

For those who harm others, the hook twists outward as a shield.

It whispers: "She made me do it. They provoked me. I'm not the real problem. Look what they did to me first. You don't understand what I've been through."

This version lets them keep hurting people while believing they're the victim. It's the ultimate self-deception. They can abuse, manipulate, control, and destroy—all while genuinely believing they're the wronged party.

The hook protects them from ever having to look in the mirror.

The System's Side of the Hook

Institutions use this hook too.

Churches blame the culture. Governments blame the previous administration. Corporations blame the market. Systems blame individuals for failing within broken structures.

"It's their fault. Not ours. We would help if we could. But they make it impossible."

Same hook. Larger scale. More people trapped.

Real Examples: What the Answers Look Like

Let me give you real examples of what people say when they're caught in this hook. Read these and see if any sound familiar.

Example 1: The Perpetual Blamer

When something goes wrong, their answer is always: "It's someone else's fault. The traffic made me late. My boss gave me bad instructions. My spouse didn't communicate. The system is rigged. Everyone else is the problem."

What this reveals: The hook has them looking everywhere but themselves. As long as it's always someone else, they never have to change.

Example 2: The Self-Blamer

When something goes wrong, their answer is: "It's always my fault. Everything is my fault. I ruin everything. If I'd just been better, this wouldn't have happened."

What this reveals: The hook has them from the other side. They're carrying blame that isn't theirs. They're taking responsibility for things they didn't do. Trapped in shame instead of freedom.

Example 3: The Explainer

When confronted about a mistake, their pattern is: "I explain. Every time. 'Here's why I did that. Here's what happened. Here's why it's not really my fault.' The words 'I'm sorry' get stuck in my throat. They feel like defeat."

What this reveals: The hook won't let them own anything. Apologizing feels like losing. Explaining feels like winning. But they're not winning. They're just keeping the hook in place.

Example 4: The Over-Apologizer

Their default is: "I apologize for everything. Even things I didn't do. 'I'm sorry' is my default. I apologize for other people's moods, for the weather, for existing. It's safer to say sorry than to risk conflict."

What this reveals: The hook has them performing false humility. They're apologizing to keep peace, not because they actually own anything. It's blame in reverse.

Example 5: The Parent-Blamer

When asked about their life, they say: "My parents. They messed me up. If they'd done things differently, I'd be different. My ex. They ruined me. The system. It's designed to keep people like me down."

What this reveals: They're stuck in what was done to them. Legitimate or not, they've made it their identity. As long as they can point at others, they don't have to become who they could be.

Example 6: The False Owner

They say: "It's all on me. Every failure. Every struggle. Every bad choice. I had the same chances as everyone else. I just blew it."

What this reveals: This sounds like ownership but it's actually the hook in disguise. They're carrying weight that isn't all theirs. Some of it is. Some of it isn't. They haven't learned to separate.

Example 7: The Evidence Collector

When hurt, their pattern is: "I look at them. What they did. How they did it. Why they did it. I replay it over and over. I collect evidence. I build my case. I need them to see what they did."

What this reveals: Their healing is dependent on the other person's acknowledgment. They'll wait forever. The hook keeps them focused on them instead of on their own freedom.

Example 8: The Shame Carrier

When hurt, they say: "I look at myself. What did I do wrong? How did I cause this? Why does this keep happening to me? There must be something wrong with me."

What this reveals: They're carrying shame that belongs to the person who hurt them. They'll never heal carrying what isn't theirs.

Example 9: The Emotional Sponge

When asked about guilt, they admit: "I feel guilty when other people are upset. I feel responsible for fixing everyone's problems. If someone is struggling, I assume I did something wrong. I carry guilt for things I had nothing to do with."

What this reveals: The hook has them as the family or relationship sponge. They've been trained to absorb what isn't theirs. It's not sensitivity. It's a hook.

Example 10: The Abuser Protector

In relationships where they've been hurt, they say: "My partner hurts me and I think about what I did to provoke it. My parent neglected me and I wonder what I did to deserve it. My friend betrayed me and I question if I expected too much."

What this reveals: This is the victim's version of the hook twisted to protect abusers. It keeps the abuser comfortable and the victim trapped.

Example 11: The Honest One

When pressed, they admit: "If I'm honest, I blame others so I don't have to change. It's easier to point at them than to look at myself. If it's their fault, I don't have to do anything. I can stay angry and comfortable. Change would be hard. Blame is easy."

What this reveals: This is the beginning of freedom. Honesty about the hook loosens its hold. If you can say this, you're closer to getting out.

Example 12: The Terrified One

When asked what would happen if they stopped blaming, they say: "I don't know. I'd have to face myself. I'd have to feel things I've been avoiding. I'd have to take responsibility for my own life. I'd have to become someone different. That's terrifying."

What this reveals: They know exactly what's underneath the blame. They're not avoiding others. They're avoiding themselves. The fear is real. But facing it is the only way out.

Questions to Ask Yourself

Read through those examples. See which ones hit. Don't judge yourself for them. Just notice.

Where you feel resistance is where the hook is.
Where you feel exposed is where the truth is.
Where you want to stop reading is where the work is.

Ask yourself:

When something goes wrong, whose fault is it?

When you mess up, do you apologize or explain?

When you think about your life, who's responsible?

When you're hurt, where do you look first?

Do you carry guilt that isn't yours?

Do you let others off the hook by blaming yourself?

Do you blame others so you don't have to change?

What would happen if you stopped?

How to Get Unhooked

This isn't a one-time thing. It's a process. But here's how it works.

Step 1: See it.

You can't get out of what you won't admit is there. Look honestly at where blame has its hooks in you. Use the examples above. Find yourself in them.

Step 2: Separate.

Ask the hardest question: What's actually mine? What's actually theirs? What do I own? What do I need to give back?

This takes time. The lines are blurry. Keep asking.

Step 3: Own what's yours.

If you have a part, own it. Not with shame. Not with self-flagellation. Just honesty. "I did that. I chose that. I own that."

This is terrifying. It's also freeing. Because what you own, you can change.

Step 4: Return what's not.

Give them their blame. Their guilt. Their responsibility. You don't have to carry it. Say it out loud: "This is not mine. I give it back."

Say it until it lands. Even if it doesn't feel true yet.

Step 5: Breathe.

The hook loses power when you see it. Breathe. Let go. Move forward.

Step 6: Repeat.

This isn't a one-and-done. The hook will try to catch you again. When it does, go through the steps again. Each time gets easier.

The Full Book: Unhooked Genesis Protocol

This is just one hook. There are more. The first hook. The third hook. The patterns that run through everything.

I wrote them all down in Unhooked Genesis Protocol.

The book shows:

· Every hook in Genesis
· How they still catch you today
· Both sides of each hook
· Real examples like the ones above
· How to get unhooked for good
· The patterns they never taught you

It's not a book of control. It's not rewritten scripture. It's the text opened up with greater clarity. The way it was always meant to be used.

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