as much as anyone in the system has the ability to make decisions that hurt others, the expectation must be that they will be compelled to do so. a system is only resilient when deviation from the protocol is guaranteed to result in forfeiture. on the chain this means losing your block reward. for lightning it means losing your side of the channel. if a protocol cannot guarantee forfeiture it is not censorship resistant and can never be made self-custodial. this is the essence of bitcoin