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Do you think it would be better if you and your wife had wanted to have kids?
I know that's a strange question to evaluate.
Better in what way? Financially, that seems obvious. As far as fulfillment in life goes, I guess you can never know for sure. People with children swear that it's the only way to find meaning or happiness or blah blah blah, but since they never didn't have children ever, and I never did, It's impossible to answer. I also think there's different ways to find fulfillment in life.
I'm sure if I had kids I would have been happy about it. I'm sure i would have treated them well, loved them, and done my best to take care of them, but the idea never appealed to me.
The only thing I can say for certain is that my life would be very different than it is now, and for the most part, I really like my life. I'm sure it could be better, or worse, but right here isn't too bad.
Like I said, it's hard to evaluate what that question even means.
I'm not religious and don't stay in touch with extended family or friends. I think it would be better if I felt like doing those things, but I don't and thinking it would be better doesn't make me want to do them.
Yea, that's a really weird thing that happens to me too. There are people that I love seeing. I have a great time every single time I talk to then or see them. It would make sense that I'd want to put forth the smallest effort imaginable and pick up a phone but honestly, meh. I just don't.
Put that in the column of potential death bed regrets while we're piling them on lol. I'm still planning on living for ever, so let's hope I don't have to find out.
I'm sure this phenomenon is going to be studied for decades. Maybe we're juat like the pandas and do not breed in captivity.
I have my theories though, and as part of the "don't got them, and don't want them" crew, my decision to not have kids is pretty multifaceted.