you can also use Lightning node connect with zeus instead of rest

It may be quick, but you are trusting tailscale. You have to use their servers. I'm just saying you might not as well use tor at all, even for LND and bitcoind if you are going to use tailscale. Unless you host something like headscale yourself.

Eximpius

I am running it on my own hardware and can't/don't know how to get a static IP and set up the router to allow incoming connections.

Tailscale / Zerotier makes a quick private connection convenient without configuration of routers / incoming connections / fixed IP addresses. Tor is similar but slower. 

orangesurf

bitcoin

My LN self custody experience

You might as well use clearnet if you are going to use tailscale. There are self host options like Headscale and another I can’t remember. That or just use OpenVPN or wireguard on your network for incoming connections to your network. 