I went through this early on also. My recommendation is go to bitcoincore.org and download the software yourself and let it sync. While it is syncing, decide which electrum-type server you would like to use. Fulcrum Electrum Server just had a big update and prevents re-indexing after a crash (https://github.com/cculianu/Fulcrum). Then connect your wallet. It will run much more efficient than anything like Umbrel or Start9.