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Yes, in my experience, involving money in relationships usually ends badly.
Example: I lent my ex €1000—we were in a relationship at the time—and when I started to ask when I would get my money back after a few months (iirc), she started to get defensive.
I fortunately did get my money back at some point, but not my relationship, lol.
100 sats \ 4 replies \ @optimism 15h
she broke up with you because you asked for your money?
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100 sats \ 3 replies \ @ek OP 15h
I don't know why she broke up with me, she never told me.
But I assume our communication issues were definitely high on the list.
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100 sats \ 2 replies \ @optimism 15h
Yeah, I generally don't lend to people I'm in a relationship/family with. If you see something back, it's awesome. If you don't, also awesome. But then I'm old.
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100 sats \ 1 reply \ @ek OP 15h
I will only ever lend money to friends again if they can tell me exactly when they’ll pay me back (it can also happen in installments). And if they can’t pay me back on time, I expect them to tell me in advance and give me a new deadline. If they still can’t pay me back, I expect a very good explanation; else I’m done with them.
But I’m not sure it’s worth the risk, so maybe I just shouldn’t do it and should help them in other ways instead.
There’s a reason credit scores exist.
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202 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism 15h
One of my more well off friends gets asked for money rather often by people and her expectation management question is: "be honest: is this a loan or a donation?"
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there is no lending in a relationship. only gifts from her point of view.
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