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How did you give your child(ren) the talk about the birds and bees?

605 sats \ 10 comments \ @cryotosensei 1 Sep AskSN

Well, I don’t have to do it for my own children yet.

But since I’m a Science teacher, I need to teach sexual reproduction of plants and humans to fifth graders. So, 11-year-olds in my country learn the names of various private parts of the human body, as well as the fertilisation process. Boys and girls attend the lesson conducted by their Science teacher together.

As for the more emotional aspects of baby-making, these 11-year-olds also attend Family Education lessons. They are split into different classes - the boys taught by a male teacher and their female classmates taught by a lady teacher. You betcha some of these discussions can get quite probing and intense!

We advocate abstinence before marriage btw. No mention of safe sex. Zilch!

Now if you are game to reveal your practices

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90 sats \ 3 replies \ @south_korea_ln 1 Sep

We advocate abstinence before marriage btw. No mention of safe sex.

Foolproof method to avoid unwanted pregnancies.

11-year-olds already know most of it through talking with friends and older kids, I reckon. I'll probably answer any questions he might have, and mostly, encourage him to be safe. Not sure I'll have "the talk", but I'll make sure he knows it's natural and healthy. As long as he does it with a consenting partner, and when he feels ready.

I still remember the day my mum bought me some condoms when I was about 18 years old and was going to live abroad for a year. Better safe than sorry she must have thought~~

24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 1 Sep

my mum bought me some condoms

That sounds unbelievably awkward

42 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 1 Sep

Raised my eyebrows because Asian societies are supposedly to be more conservative. Seems that his mum is more liberal than the typical Korean lady!

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 1 Sep

Sounds about right. We have military conscription in Singapore, and the army officers passed us a box of condoms each when we went for overseas training in Rockhampton, Australia. Our ages ranged from 18 to 21 then

48 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 1 Sep

I'm glad to not be there yet. Our daughter was curious about body parts, so we got her a book called Who Has What that's written for little kids.

My hope is that we can maintain open lines of communication and she'll just ask questions as they occur to her, rather needing to have a long awkward talk all at once.

42 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 1 Sep

Thanks for the book recommendation! I see that there is an audiobook version on YouTube, will check it out.

I agree that bite-sized explanations as and when necessary is gonna be more impactful and less awkward than The Talk

24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Entrep 1 Sep

Eleven year olds learning about fertilisation? That’s wild! I didn’t get that until high school. And the split classes? Clever

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 1 Sep

Is sexuality education covered in the curriculum in your country? If so, at what age?

24 sats \ 1 reply \ @hasherstacker 1 Sep

We advocate abstinence before marriage btw. No mention of safe sex.

I think, this is how best to get it done.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 1 Sep

But I doubt young people will save themselves for marriage, given how ubiquitous the phrase body count has become