The writer formed categories of men they encounter while dating. I might be of a similar zeitgeist because a lot of it rang true for me. I also find myself making this point about unreasonable expectations of men, taken from their section about the confusing map of manhood men are given, a lot lately:
- It’s your duty to use your privileges and strength as a man to defend the weak and uplift the less-privileged.
- Understand that “providing” doesn’t mean making money and “protecting” doesn’t mean physical protection; those are outdated concepts that reinforce the patriarchy. Provide emotionally and protect against systemic injustices.
- If you fail to provide money and physical protection (or at least a physically capable physique), you’ll be locked out of many relationships. But don’t complain about this discrepancy between stated and actual expectations.
ie you must provide the money and physical protection to be considered, but you'll receive no credit for them and, lest you be toxic, they grant you no in-kind expectations of the female counterpart.
Like a personality quiz, it's fun to try to place yourself in one of the categories: