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After a fair amount of looking and asking the same question, the answer seems to be:
  1. Ask friends if they have someone they really like
  2. Trial and error
It would be great if there was some more systematic way to solve this, search-engine style, but the incentives and regulations guarantee there cannot be.
Related: I have found quite a bit of mental well-being utility from Sam Harris's "Waking Up" app. The Alan Watts back catalogue is easily worth the annual fee, which is steep, but worth it . (And this coming from someone who finds Harris himself off-putting.)
I've stayed away from the app because I find Harris off-putting (didn't used to, but something changed), so I appreciate the qualified rec!
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I find Harris off-putting (didn't used to, but something changed)
For me it was this episode when I realized I could no longer tolerate him.
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Yep he got super partisan. Before he’d keep it philosophical and politics would bloom in the grass of that occasionally, but it got kind of shrill before too long.
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