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DISCLAIMER: This isn't a terribly great article, but the vignette at the beginning of the it really stuck with me.
Some sperm donor guy apparently passed on a "cancer gene" to a whole bunch of babies. Obviously, people want to figure out how to not do that.
Thankfully, it's not as bad as you think. Desmet cites a newspaper article about the event which reassures us:
It’s important to keep in mind that the likelihood of a donor passing on a pathogenic variant is significantly lower than in traditional bedroom-based reproduction. That’s because the family history of candidate donors is mapped out and their DNA is screened for the most common genetic variants. Candidate donors with increased risk are rejected.
This is where Desmet really gets worked up.
Sperm donation is already safer than traditional reproduction. That statement is a monstrosity — at least if you more or less correctly locate the purpose of life. As if human beings would become more human by having their reproduction take place under clinically controlled conditions.
He takes us down a slippery slope to where it's a crime to conceive babies naturally anymore...which is a bit much...I think?
Some close friends are doing IVF and in addition to the process being incredibly rough on women, it's struck me how commonplace it is now for people to talk about "testing embryos for abonormalities." It isn't a far step away from testing your potential spouse for abnormalities. Seems like a sad world.
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I got a friend who’s been donating sperm to lesbian couples. He thinks he’s doing them a service failing to recognize the tradeoff for his actions.
I know designer babies are coming because it is extremely difficult raising a child with special needs but we have to ask ourselves are we losing touch with our humanity and God’s will going down this path.
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People used to submit blood samples a few days before marriage so the government could determine if it was safe for them to have children together.
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Medecine still evolving over the time.
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Many people today want to have everything under control: their studies, their career, their bank account... even the exact moment to have children. They postpone motherhood and fatherhood until "everything is in order," and when that moment finally arrives, they have one (or none), or they decide to pour their affection into a nephew, a dog, or a cat. Everything must be planned, safe, and efficient. Risk-free.
But life doesn't always work that way.
I was born in Cuba, a communist country with little future or opportunities. I married young, at 24, and my wife was 20. She was still in college, and I had just graduated. At 29, our first child was born, amid a difficult context, marked by discouragement, scarcity, and uncertainty. It was that same child (that new life that didn't wait for the "ideal moment") that led us to rethink everything. We decided to leave the country, look for a way out, create new opportunities.
We arrived in Brazil, and soon after, my wife became pregnant again. When our second child was born, we discovered he had Down syndrome. Once again, life shook us up and put us in front of the mirror again: our plans, our ideas for the future, our notion of "normality"—everything changed. Today, we invest time, effort, and resources into ensuring our son has the best life possible. Doctors, therapists, specialists... And also a lot of love and hope.
What's my point with all this?
Life can't be completely predicted or controlled. It's not a laboratory. We can't always select the best genes or avoid everything that makes us uncomfortable. Sometimes children arrive unexpectedly, even imperfectly by certain standards... but with them comes a profound transformation.
Trying to design perfect children may seem safe, but it's also a way of denying what makes us truly human: our vulnerability, our openness to change, and the capacity to love beyond expectations.
Maybe instead of wanting to be gods, we should learn to live with uncertainty… and let life surprise us.
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