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152 sats \ 0 replies \ @didiplaywell 22 Jun \ on: being an enabler mostly_harmless
The entire post reduces solely to this:
"enabling is one of many manifestations of my insecurities. enabling makes me feel needed. it makes me feel impossible to abandon. it makes me feel unlikely to be left alone"
The rest is barely a symptom, so focusing on that will not cure the sickness. Cookie addicts don't have a problem here, let them be.
You have a problem.
This is one of the reasons I consider libertarianism almost a religion, and Adam Smith's book a bible, where this phrase alone comes up over and over as its main verse, a truth old as time:
"By pursuing his own interest, men frequently promotes that of the society
more effectually than when he really intends to promote it."
If you really want to help others, if you really want to be needed, focus on you first. The rest will come.