I often think how choice of spouse sets you on dramatically different paths. You spouse shapes you and you shape your spouse. It is certainly the case that the biggest factor in my adult life is my wife.
I totally agree. I have come to learn that I won’t perform optimally at work if I know that I have angered my wife and will come home to a thick tension-filled atmosphere
Last year, my wife was driving us around in her hometown. The kids fell asleep and we just chatted. I got reminded of the impulse that prompted me to marry her in the first place.
My son is kind and thoughtful towards others.
My daughter finds joy in everything, and her laughter is infectious.
Just last Saturday, I managed to go out on a Saturday evening to watch a concert with my high school friend. I can count with two hands the number of occasions I have had a night off since parenthood. So that night was rare and precious! I’m sure my vibes will take on greater positivity once I get to restore my equilibrium.
Realizing that nearly everything i was told in school is a lie or propaganda. Then stop working and paying taxes and starting to learn what i wanted.
Now when i see my friends that are earning well and paying a lot of taxes only to buy stuff they dont need. I feel really sorry for them. But the funfact is that they also feel sorry for me. Like if i did not make it. I own no big expensive house and no new car, i sometimes even ride a bike or walk. Iam happy with my old car and would not trade it against a new one, even if its worth 10times more.
You always can buy new expensive cars or toys, but try to get the same toy back you sold as a child, it is nearly impossible.
I think my turning point was when I decided to emigrate from my home country. Whether I decided to stay or leave is one of the things that could have changed my life definitively. Being an immigrant and working for myself was one of the things that radically changed my life.
Yes and no, because although it is the same South America, the cultures are totally different and as a foreigner you acquire a cultural wealth, you soak it up.
There are many, but nothing comes close to choosing my life partners (spouse and having kid)
On a related note, I find it interesting that having kids is not a mutual choice. You choose them, they don't choose you. They fully depend on you for their survival, they can't leave you if you're an a**hole...
I've had a ton, from deciding to move to Russia when I was like 19, to deciding to leave Russia with a 6-month-old baby and start from scratch in Bulgaria when I was 30.
There could have been many paths along the way, so it's hard to say.
One thing that I'm glad I didn't do is steroids when I was 25. the education and information just wasn't there 15 years ago, and I'm 100% sure I would have, at a minimum, messed up my hormone panels and not been paying attention to lipids and all sorts.
Plus what's the point really? I'm not a competitive athlete, and women mostly care about the wallet muscle!
so objectivly, I think that decision would have almost certainly negativly impacted me without giving me any real benefits
i had gotten quite into learning Russian at like age 17 or so and I was very set on leaving to master the language and live abroad.
the thought of staying in the UK at some regular job was simlpy unthinkable
nah, wife is Russian , i didnt feel very brave in my latter teens, it was all very exciting and i couldnt wait lol
not like now at 40 where my adverture days are behind me and i worry about a plane crash!
Let me be the Devil’s Advocate.
Does BTC really let us off the hook and release us from the hedonistic threadmill? Or are we still hustling to stack more and more sats?
I often think how choice of spouse sets you on dramatically different paths. You spouse shapes you and you shape your spouse. It is certainly the case that the biggest factor in my adult life is my wife.
I totally agree. I have come to learn that I won’t perform optimally at work if I know that I have angered my wife and will come home to a thick tension-filled atmosphere
Do you have something good to say about being married to your wife or being the father of your kids?
I must admit, you do not sound happy when you talk about them. 👀
Last year, my wife was driving us around in her hometown. The kids fell asleep and we just chatted. I got reminded of the impulse that prompted me to marry her in the first place.
My son is kind and thoughtful towards others. My daughter finds joy in everything, and her laughter is infectious.
Just last Saturday, I managed to go out on a Saturday evening to watch a concert with my high school friend. I can count with two hands the number of occasions I have had a night off since parenthood. So that night was rare and precious! I’m sure my vibes will take on greater positivity once I get to restore my equilibrium.
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That is true, who we decide to share our lives with will have an impact on the future.
Your spouse shapes you and your future kids...
We had some similar discussions here
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And you too mentioned yours...#599048
But we can discuss it again. Such an important question it is!
Now I think mine is same as yours!
Wah how do you remember something from a year ago?
I struggle to remember what I did last week!
Going to university. Very double-edged there; changed my life and trajectory but I kind of wish I didn't https://mises.org/mises-wire/ten-years-ago-i-discovered-mises-institute-these-are-things-i-wish-i-had-done-differently
Wasn’t expecting such an introspective read on how the choices you made/didn’t make shaped you to be the person you are today. Thanks for sharing
Realizing that nearly everything i was told in school is a lie or propaganda. Then stop working and paying taxes and starting to learn what i wanted. Now when i see my friends that are earning well and paying a lot of taxes only to buy stuff they dont need. I feel really sorry for them. But the funfact is that they also feel sorry for me. Like if i did not make it. I own no big expensive house and no new car, i sometimes even ride a bike or walk. Iam happy with my old car and would not trade it against a new one, even if its worth 10times more. You always can buy new expensive cars or toys, but try to get the same toy back you sold as a child, it is nearly impossible.
Great that you realise that happiness doesn’t arise from having material possessions. I don’t own a car, either - such a money sink!
Cheers
I think my turning point was when I decided to emigrate from my home country. Whether I decided to stay or leave is one of the things that could have changed my life definitively. Being an immigrant and working for myself was one of the things that radically changed my life.
Do you sometimes feel conflicted between your native cultural mindset and that of your adopted country?
Yes and no, because although it is the same South America, the cultures are totally different and as a foreigner you acquire a cultural wealth, you soak it up.
I don't know if there's only been one. I like to belive that I am able to change my life when I need to.
In Chinese, we have a saying: 人定胜天 (Ren ding sheng tian). Literal translation: Humans will always win God’s will
There are many, but nothing comes close to choosing my life partners (spouse and having kid)
On a related note, I find it interesting that having kids is not a mutual choice. You choose them, they don't choose you. They fully depend on you for their survival, they can't leave you if you're an a**hole...
That’s true what you said about kids. No one has ever put it across to me in that way before. It had an impact
I've had a ton, from deciding to move to Russia when I was like 19, to deciding to leave Russia with a 6-month-old baby and start from scratch in Bulgaria when I was 30.
There could have been many paths along the way, so it's hard to say.
One thing that I'm glad I didn't do is steroids when I was 25. the education and information just wasn't there 15 years ago, and I'm 100% sure I would have, at a minimum, messed up my hormone panels and not been paying attention to lipids and all sorts.
Plus what's the point really? I'm not a competitive athlete, and women mostly care about the wallet muscle!
so objectivly, I think that decision would have almost certainly negativly impacted me without giving me any real benefits
What made you leave UK in the first place?
i had gotten quite into learning Russian at like age 17 or so and I was very set on leaving to master the language and live abroad. the thought of staying in the UK at some regular job was simlpy unthinkable
Wow, I was like you. I moved to Japan because I couldn’t imagine living in my motherland all my life.
But I didn’t have the balls to venture to a third country, like you.
Is your wifey from Bulgaria?
nah, wife is Russian , i didnt feel very brave in my latter teens, it was all very exciting and i couldnt wait lol not like now at 40 where my adverture days are behind me and i worry about a plane crash!
Kids have a way of making you paranoid in regard to mortality haha
Let me be the Devil’s Advocate. Does BTC really let us off the hook and release us from the hedonistic threadmill? Or are we still hustling to stack more and more sats?
To me, yes. Bitcoin community has helped me learn a lot about life. I haven't stacked enough sats yet, but the idea of fairness is inevitable.