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Music

Share a favorite guitar solo and why?

DesertDave

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly (Ennio Morricone): A gem 💎 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNNXfeg1V2k&list=RDQMPacdwsmQ-w0&index=3

Stacker Saloon

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Don’t let them ruin you by their opinions.
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ideasfromtheedge

They taught you to be strong. The strongest. Not to bend, not to look vulnerable. And they forgot to tell you that no matter how strong you are, it's going to hurt. They'll betray you, they'll deceive you, they'll scare you. And eventually you will inevitably fail.

They forgot to tell you that strength is not the absence of pain, but the ability to endure it.

They forgot to tell you that fear is not an enemy, but a companion.

They forgot to tell you that failure is not the end, but the way to progress.

Strength through vulnerability

Wake up from your slumber... We have become so used to material and social slavery that we no longer see the chains...
You work 8 hours to live 4.
You work 6 days to enjoy 1 day.
You work 8 hours to eat in 15 minutes.
You work 8 hours to sleep 5.
You work all year to take a week or two's holiday.
You work all your life to retire in old age.
And you contemplate your last breaths.
With time you realise that life is nothing but a parody of yourself practising your own oblivion.
We have become so used to material and social slavery that we no longer see the chains...

Life is a short journey, live it!

Life is a short journey…

When you hurt genuinely kind people, you might not see an immediate reaction. 

They won’t raise their voice, make accusations, or cause a scene. 

Instead, they’ll carry their pain silently, showing the same warmth and compassion they always have. 

But deep down, something has shifted. 

They’ll start to distance themselves, not in anger but in quiet acceptance. 

Slowly, they’ll create space, walking away without any dramatic goodbyes and they won’t look back.

These are the people who valued you deeply, who trusted you without question. 

When that trust is broken, it doesn’t shatter, it fades away, leaving them with no choice but to protect their peace.

They won’t stop being kind or lose their gentle nature, but they’ll never see you the same way again. 

Remember, losing a kind heart is losing something irreplaceable. 

So appreciate them now that you can, because once they're gone, they're gone for good.

Losing a kind heart is losing something irreplaceable

One morning, we woke up... and we are fifty, sixty or more...

We realize that the years have passed, leaving fine scars, wrinkles at the corners of the eyes. The clock is ticking, inexorably, and we feel the need to check...

We think of the people who have passed through our lives, those who cared for us, those who left early, those who made us laugh, cry, dream... 

We relive moments of happiness and loneliness, dreams we nurture and abandon. 
Each one carves his own path, some brighter, some more twisted.

Then we understand: 
life is made of phases, of cycles. 

Each stage is unique, with flavor, aroma, faces and stories. 
So we collect memories: names, faces, loves, disappointments...

Because life, after all, is just that: A legacy of memories.

A legacy of memories

We have bigger houses and smaller families.

We have more degrees, but less sense.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.

We conquered outer space but not inner space.

We've done larger things, but not better things.

We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
 
Give time to Love, give time to speak, give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

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I came across these lines today, which I found on a yellowed sheet of paper, worn away by time, that I had written some years ago. They are attributed (according to some, misattributed) to the comedian George Carlin, known for his sharp wit, social criticism, and inclination toward dark comedy, meaning the blend of humor with painful undertones. I searched on Google and saw that the comedian passed away over a decade and a half ago, yet his words seem as if he spoke them today. _Vita brevis, ars longa_, said the Latins.

It may have been decades since I first read them and set them aside, hoping they might one day come in handy. And in some way, they did today. You might ask how and why they served me. It happens that wise words often help us not so much to converse with others but with ourselves.

Ars longa, vita brevis!

BooksAndArticles

We've all been in a situation where we've asked a lot of questions about someone's behaviour, or been asked to advise a friend, so we've played the role of therapist. Being empathetic and a good listener gives you the advantage of being there for others, of being trusted with secrets, dilemmas and dramas for which you may not always have an answer as to why people choose X or Y strategies to complicate simple things. Psychologists consider these questions simple because all that's needed is the desire and the will to communicate.

The common theme in all these human questions I've heard recently is a curiosity to identify these specific human patterns of behaviour, especially when it comes to relationships.

Recently, someone whose intellect I greatly admire recommended an interesting book by the psychotherapist and father of bioenergetics, Alexander Lowen: Narcissism: *Denial of the True Self*, 
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in which he analyses how much of the terminology I will focus on next comes from the narcissistic personality trait.

Relationships have never been easy. But in today's modern age, the vocabulary we use to describe how two people fall in and out of love is richer than ever.

Dating in a primarily digital world (with an increasing number of different dating apps) has changed many elements of romantic relationships.

The golden days of a relationship, when there were only three stages: dating, engagement and marriage, seem long gone.

Now there are new terms to define the beginning and end of each relationship cycle, whether the person you are dating is dating other people at the same time (breadcrumbing), or a new, overly passionate person is showering you with love and attention for weeks before you suddenly fall headlong into this seemingly sweet but well-planned trap (love bombing).

It may all seem confusing and complicated, so I have decided to decode these behaviours a little.

Below you'll find an "explanation" of modern relationship terminology to give you the clarity you need to identify the "undefined" relationship you may be stuck in.

#### **Ghosting**

Ghosting is nothing new in today's modern dating culture. Ghosting describes the act of suddenly - and seemingly without reason - cutting off all communication within a romantic relationship that seemed to be flourishing.

The ghost disappears into thin air, ignoring messages, calls and any attempt at communication from the other person, thus ending all contact.

The most negative aspect of ghosting is that it leaves the other person completely confused, trying to figure out what went wrong or why it all fell apart so suddenly. Whether you've been seeing each other for a while or are in the early stages of a romantic relationship, ghosting is a sudden and complete end to whatever you may have shared.

##### *Many psychologists believe that ghosting is a form of emotional cruelty that deepens feelings of abandonment and desertion.*

If you're with someone and things aren't working out for whatever reason, it's better to break up properly, even if it's a difficult conversation to have.

#### **Haunting**

After ghosting comes haunting. Sometimes people who suddenly disappear from a partner's life reappear without warning or a clear explanation.

The reappearance isn't direct, with a message or a phone call. It's more subtle and usually happens through social media. The ex-ghost might like an Instagram photo or respond to a story you posted, but these lazy attempts to reconnect shouldn't be taken seriously; it's nothing more than a ghost trying to stir up 'trouble' again.

If someone really wants to come back and rekindle the flame, your phone number is more than enough to make the first move.

#### **Submarining**

Submarining is similar to haunting, but instead of subtly trying to return to your life, they will reappear completely, like a submarine.

An ex-ghost may contact you with a message and act as if nothing ever happened, without even apologising for their initial sudden disappearance.

"Submariners will always find their way back, lurking in the deep, mysterious waters, so don't mistake their reappearance for a real "connection".

#### **Zombieing**

So far, we've learned that ghosts can haunt, submariners can return, and finally, they can turn into zombies. A zombie describes the phenomenon of a ghost reappearing in someone's life, whether months or even years after the initial disappearance, and trying to reconnect.

Zombies may try to fool you into thinking they are a completely new person. Psychologists advise caution so you don't fall for their tactics.

#### **Orbiting**

Orbiting seems to be the new ghosting. With widespread access to social media, the tendency for someone to disappear completely and permanently seems rare.

Instead, this category of individuals is likely to orbit your virtual world, constantly monitoring updates in your life on digital platforms. It's a phenomenon that resembles a permanent slumber without taking any real steps to create real communication.

You see them 'watching' you, and after a while you may wonder why. There's really no simple explanation. Maybe they think the unfollow button is too harsh, or maybe they're just curious.

Either way, you'll never know - unless they reappear as a submarine or a zombie.

#### **Breadcrumbing**

Breadcrumbing comes from the old German fairy tale _Hansel and Gretel_. This phenomenon describes the act of breadcrumbing someone to make them think they are liked by the other party.

Communication comes in the form of messages, calls and general attention via social media. It's just enough engagement to keep you interested, but ultimately unsatisfied. These crumbs often lead nowhere. A _breadcrumb_ leads you by dropping small crumbs of interest - a random message, a phone call, scheduled meetings or some social media interaction, all sporadic.

So you meet someone who doesn't seem very committed? Maybe they send enough messages to reassure you that they are still interested. After all, if they didn't like you, they wouldn't spend time messaging, would they?

In reality, breadcrumb people generally want to keep you interested, even if they have no concrete intention of starting a relationship with you. They may fill you with imaginary plans, but nothing really happens. Maybe they're just lonely at the moment, bored during the day, or simply keeping you as an option to validate their ego.

#### **Benching**

As you know, in football, some players sit on the bench, ready to come on when needed. In modern relationships, benching is the act of "keeping a list" of possible players who might one day be called upon to spend some time on the field.

You might bench someone who has shown interest in the past, but for whatever reason it never worked out. You could also bench someone who isn't ready for a real relationship, but you are.

Remember that being benched usually involves the elements mentioned above, such as breadcrumbing.

#### **Situation**

Less than a relationship, but more than a casual hookup, this phenomenon refers to a romantic connection that is and remains undefined.

"A situationship is the space between a committed relationship and something more than a friendship," explains psychotherapist and author Jonathan Alpert. "Unlike a friends-with-benefits or a relationship, there is no consensus about what a situationship is." Why is this phenomenon becoming fashionable now?

"Culturally, our expectations of relationships have shifted; people are marrying later, and many are eager to explore relationships in a less structured way, free from the pressures of commitment, prioritising self-discovery and individual growth."

#### **The Slow Fade**

If ghosting is the sudden end of a relationship, a slow fade is death by a thousand cuts.

A slow fade happens over time and involves one person in the relationship gradually distancing themselves from the other.

Instead of a difficult conversation followed by a break-up, a slow fade is a prolonged and often painful recession leading to the eventual closure of the relationship. It's often used in new relationships as a way of easing the trauma of a break-up.



Modern relationship terminology

Part #3 of Saloon Nut 🌰

BlokchainB

> This has been claimed

I don't think so. I think there is a trick in the code and no one found it yet. @BlokchainB am I right? 

>The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.

–Carl Jung
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The terrifying thing is getting to know yourself. We often hide from ourselves and project what we don’t like onto others. There are so many barriers to self-understanding, especially denial, shame and guilt. How do we accept ourselves completely because it is what we dislike, or even hate, in others, that we have to be willing to face in ourselves? It may take a painful tragedy, a crisis, the pain of loss to break down the denial and overcome the shame and guilt so the healing process can begin.And that involves self-forgiveness and self-nurturing, often ongoing! And learning to reach out to others for emotional support, learning to share your struggles, to listen to others and to let go of your judgement toward others.

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely

bitcoin_Mining

Bitcoin price after US elections: Bitcoin reached an unprecedented peak on Wednesday, crossing $75,000 for the first time after initial US presidential election results trends indicated that Republican Donald Trump held a narrow lead over Democratic candidate Kamala Harris. This milestone surpassed the previous record of &73,750, demonstrating strong market confidence. 


US election results: Bitcoin price at record high, crosses $75,000

>The worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them: that's the essence of inhumanity.

–George Bernard Shaw

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The thing about indifference is like saying others don’t matter, have no significance, might as well be invisible. So many people feel like they are invisible and that they don’t matter and that no one cares and that is tragic and painful. So when people are indifferent, I think that adds to the pain others suffer. Even acknowledging another person, smiling at them, being willing to lend a helping hand can make such a difference in a positive way.

Indifference

Politics_And_Law

U.S. intelligence agencies have recently flagged new Russian disinformation efforts targeting swing states ahead of the 2024 presidential election. These efforts, led by Russia-backed operatives, seek to amplify doubts about election integrity and potentially incite violence. They involve spreading fake stories through social media platforms and video content, including false claims about voter fraud and ballot tampering, particularly in battleground states like Pennsylvania and Arizona. The FBI, CISA, and ODNI have expressed concern that such activities could erode public trust and stir discord during this tightly contested election season.

These operations also target specific demographics, including gamers, minorities, and users of certain online communities, using platforms like Reddit and Facebook to distribute divisive content. This strategy is part of a broader Russian goal to influence U.S. politics and public opinion, particularly to reduce support for Ukraine and other U.S. foreign policies. To counter these actions, U.S. agencies are working to dismantle the networks involved and provide transparency to the public on disinformation risks.

US security agencies warn of Russian election disinformation blitz…

AskSN

What do you think about positive psychology or positive thinking trends?

>You believe that isn't possible?

No, I don’t believe. 

HEART OF SALT, BREATH OF GOLD! by mx12Art

mx12art

There was a time when I read many such books. Now I don't believe in that kind of "psychology".

What about you? 

We are born equal, but only for a moment. Immediately, your life, your actions are largely determined by your country, your neighbourhood, your religion, the life of your parents.

From that moment on, you will be at war with the demons that are already at your doorstep and the ones you will meet along the way.

Some succeed and defeat them all. Some defeat some and many none, and as a result you are at the mercy of the design of the society we have created.

We die. And for a moment, just for a moment, we are equal again. But even after we die, we are not equal. Some go to the pantheon. Some are left to be remembered, and some crawl around like an unjust curse until they find peace, if they find it.

We are equal from birth to death, but in the meantime we have never been.

Men have never been equal.