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Raising two young adults can take a toll on the couple’s relationship. Sometimes, I feel that my wife and I are roommates as we strive to get our kids through the nightly routine. Plus, our chats revolve around the kids.
We spent last December in her hometown in Japan. They live in the countryside, so public transport isn’t as extensive as that in Singapore. This makes driving a necessity. So, I’m lucky enough to be chauffeured everywhere by my wife.
But that’s not the point of this post. The point is that on these longish car rides, my wife and I had the chance to talk more deeply because our children would fall asleep. She told me about developing an interest in classical music - something she never raised during our regular lives. It brought me back to the times when we were dating. A feeling that is more akin to romance rather than companionship. I should stop here lest I get sappy.
Over to you!
I came for the comments and jet there are so few! For us it's going on holiday trips! Being abroad in different cultures is something where both get very existed and something sparks again.
But holding hands is always the best! Easy, small, simple!
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But I got quality comments, so that’s okay!
I agree with hand-holding. I still have butterflies in my stomach. Too bad that I need to hold my children’s hands (rather than my wife’s) these days
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Grab both!
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One hand needs to be on the stroller or shopping cart haha
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🤣
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That's a tough one. I've been with my wife for over 10 years, and even without kids, it's easy to fall into a routine.
I helps when I make a conscious effort to be more physically affectionate with her. Even simple things like holding her hand when were our shopping help.
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Sounds like physical touch is your love language!
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i don't think it's possible to maintain a spark per-se when raising kids because it's monotonous by default. if you've been with someone a decade, you're not going to elicit a wild spark, it shifts to a different thing.
i think probably the most realistic thing is to do something like a date night (maybe a spontaneous one) and just have time doing simple things, without the kids. send them to grandma, then go get a coffee etc. then you can just interact as people, not parents.
keeping it simple. now, if you were rich af, then it might be easier because you could just spend your time doing fulfilling things and doing all kinds of experiences, without the grind of work and worrying about bills etc
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monotonous by default
Oh my goodness, you are my kind of guy.
How has your career pivoting been going since last year?
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I haven't really done a pivot as such yet, still doing what I was doing, looking for clients, but trying to research things I could also do that can work remotely and not get outsourced OR replaced by GPT. I've found some courses that supposedly offer help with employment placement, but they cost like 8 grand.
I've ordered a cheap 3d printer so will learn about that , I don't know it it's anything i could make money from, seems like it will maybe be a fun hobby though.
honestly, if i was in the UK, i would find some apprenticeship and become a heat pump engineer or something, since the gov is shoving them down everyone's throat lol
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