I recently read “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch for the second time. Now that I’m older, I take away different things from reading it. The thing that struck me most was his quirks and idiosyncrasies.
For instance, if he needed someone to review a paper, he would encode it with a box of Thin Mints. That way, whenever he needed to get an update, he would just ask “Did you eat the Thin Mints yet?” Giving out Thin Mints sweetened the task he assigned others, be it literally or metaphorically.
He also had a crayon routine. Before a workshop, he would distribute a crayon to his participants and get them to engage their senses by touching and smelling it. Now that I’m typing this, I realise I have forgotten the rationale behind his routine - but I think it doesn’t really matter because even if I remember his reason, I can’t replicate his conviction.
This got me thinking about my quirks. Motivated by the desire to declutter my stuff, I have taken to tearing pages off the book I’m reading and carrying them everywhere I go.
This has attracted the attention of my colleagues, but honestly, because I make a conscious effort to recycle my preloved books, I don’t feel a tinge of guilt with respect to destroying them. In fact, now that my reading rate has increased drastically, I wonder why I haven’t come up with this quirk earlier.
Another of my signature moves is wearing a suit. Because I lived in Japan for two years, I have associated wearing a suit with bringing my A game. It just hits differently when I’m all dressed up smart and sophisticated. I think this elevates the feel of the school event I am entrusted to be the emcee for, even though some people may secretly think that I am spoiling market (Shoutout to @Bell_curve).
It certainly needs some getting used to. My principal explicitly advised me not to wear a suit for an interview I was scheduled to undergo at the Ministry of Education headquarters. “Don’t be overdressed,” she said.
Why the need for quirks, Sensei? Isn’t it bordering on trying to attract attention? I guess you could perceive it that way if you approach it from the angle of how we must manage our personal brand in order to stick out from an increasingly competitive job market. I’m sure there are people out there who prefer to keep a low profile and let their Proof of Work speak for themselves.
I won’t say that I’m the showy kind, but I do think that my quirks help me remain salient in people’s minds while allowing me to stay true to myself. Sometimes, it’s not the words you say, but the manner in which you deliver the message. Wearing a suit helps me feel confident; additionally, the audience might just listen to me more attentively since they can see how seriously I’m taking this. A senior educator in my country has earned accolades for performing magic tricks while regaling teachers and school leaders with her hard-won insights gleaned from years of serving on the ground. Her trademark tricks make her messages stick.
Thats what I hope to achieve with my quirks too.
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There's probably more quirk to me than not.
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same here. isn't that was makes us us? the special ingredients to our personality.
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Well said. Ingredients of our personality
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What did your daughter call you again? 😝
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So many things
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Late to the party but did you manage to feel comfortable over the years wearing a suit?
Since my son was born I was wearing really shitty / bum-looking clothes, sweatpants etc. but I noticed how people (including myself) slowly respected me less.
So I got in shape back and I'm wearing much nicer clothes. Today I wore this and felt kind of uncomfortable. Is there a future for me or should I give up?
BTW I loved this in Japan too and you should keep doing it. Screw what others think. Being normal is a surefire way to live a shitty life.
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I never knew you lived in Japan! How long were you there for?
I love wearing a suit. As I often tell my colleagues in jest, “When you don’t have substance, you must at least have style.” I think it sends out a powerful statement that I am taking myself (and my work) seriously.
So, a Japanese professor visited my school n I was tasked to have a chat with her. I wore my black suit - as an aside, two of my suits are perpetually placed in school, ready to be worn at any time - and was better dressed than anyone else, including the school leaders. I felt good about it!
I zeroed in on your picture but can’t find any hint of a pot belly. Or if you do have love handles, that outfit hides it well haha. Of course you have a future! Consider the point that maybe that shirt didn’t particularly inspire you. Just keep shopping around until you find a shirt that makes you want to wear it!
Happy to see you, fellow superhero! 🦸
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The belly is gone. I went from wearing M-L to S. Waist 34 to 28.
You look good in a suit. That's a good idea to just keep them at your workplace.
Sorry, I left the important part out, question is:
Did you manage to get comfortable wearing a suit? I find it amazing to see people wearing a suit in sweltering heat, but at some point I think people who get used to it feel the same as those who don't.
I go to Japan often (sometimes a few times per year) and learned Japanese when I was a teenager. I was supposed to go for Phd there but luckily didn't.
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Yes, I did. If I wore a suit in Japan, it would be for an occasion - and all other attendees would be wearing suits. So, I barely noticed my discomfort. Anyway, I would be distracted by the prospect of taking photos for remembrance.
If I wear a suit in humid Singapore, I would feel uncomfortable. Though the attention I garner would be enough for me to act chill and refrain from making big movements so that I don’t sweat. Impression management - do or die!
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I leave tips at the hair salon. But none of my friends do this. Everyone believes that a person simply does a job for which he came voluntarily, and no additional incentives are required. But I see that the master tried, and he got a good result and deserves praise and gratitude.
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Very empathetic of you, Ser!
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I hope you wore the suit to the interview!
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I didn’t, to play it safe haha
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I loved this book, though it's been a long time since I read it. And yeah, embracing quirks is the way to go.
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Literally spotted a similar word from Success Built to Last, the book I’m reading now: eccentricities. Cool word
Hope all’s well on the job front! Keep at it
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Thanks! Had a pair of good interviews this week, hoping they lead to second-round ones.
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Is it weird to brush your teeth after every meal...If so, then this.
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I think it’s a great practice. But I don’t do it myself haha
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29 sats \ 1 reply \ @ek 9 Aug
I like making sounds
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And you play the piano too!
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I had a quirk of wearing peculiar Indian dresses for most occasions and if mad me look peculiar among modern folks.
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I’m sure you pull it off with style
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Honesty is the most important thing, humility must also be applied. Your post is well structured.
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Thanks for the kind words
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Many times we know our virtues without recognizing our mistakes, that is why we should always try to know ourselves and improve every day.
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Indeed self-improvement is the way to go
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29 sats \ 1 reply \ @grayruby 9 Aug
Great post. I will not reveal my quirks on SN though.
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Oh tantalising 😝
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Sometimes your "quirks" can get you ostracized.
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I told you this before, I think. Sensei is very likeable haha
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Wasting time and thought to be liked will just burn you in the end. All it takes is one spoiled kid to lie about things to their parents.
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stackers have outlawed this. turn on wild west mode in your /settings to see outlawed content.