Suffering is a stark reality, a force that dwells in the deepest recesses of our souls. Its presence can be unbearable, marking us with emotional scars that are not easily healed. Yet suffering is not a burden we should flee from. It is, paradoxically, the crucible of our growth and the hallmark of our humanity.
In a society where comfort has become the ultimate goal, the mere mention of suffering stirs discomfort. We view it as the unpopular kid in school, as someone to avoid even being seen with, let alone engaging in. Yet, herein lies the paradox: Our relentless pursuit of comfort leads to stagnation, dulling our senses and depressing our souls.
Consider the "Mouse Utopia" experiment—a controlled environment abundant with food, devoid of predators, and saturated with safety. Initially, the mice prospered, but over time, their community fractured and their essence altered. Females grew aggressive, males withdrew, and soon, their world withered away in a demographic collapse. They were not merely mice living in abundance; they became creatures debased by the absence of struggle.
This mirrors our human story in many unsettling ways. Like those mice, we live in increasingly regulated and structured societies. Our worlds are so designed to alleviate suffering that we are becoming less human and more indulgent. We are losing our nature—our need for challenges, for frontiers to conquer, and for obstacles to overcome.
However, unlike mice, we possess reason, the conscious power to shift our trajectory. We can embrace hardship as a form of spiritual awakening, a crucible where our better selves are forged. Gyms have proliferated not merely for physical well-being but because they serve our inherent need for struggle. Marathons and obstacle races have surged in popularity, offering us the chance to confront our limitations head-on. Cold plunges and saunas have become popular in part because it stretches our bodies past their normal ranges.
Suffering, then, is not an aberration; it is an integral part of the human experience. To seek a life devoid of suffering is to miss out on the profound depths of love, the intensity of joy, and the soul-stirring power of art. To shun suffering is to remain perpetually a child, forever shielded from the complexities and richness of human life. Sadly, too many choose this much easier path.
Our perception of suffering needs to change. Do not curse it as a wretched plight but celebrate it as a catalyst for growth. For it is in the fires of suffering that we find our purpose, our resilience, and our true selves. Everything worthwhile, every meaningful experience, asks us to walk through the flames.
Embrace suffering, for it is the gateway to being human.
Wise words. A great read!
As you highlight. lessons and learnings are found in struggle and failure, not success. We just have to listen and dig deeper to encounter them.
Of course we should not seek or justify suffering for ourselves or others. There are simply ways to overcome whatever life throws at us, by being disciplined and exposed enough times to not let it define or break us
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Females grew aggressive, males withdrew
Sounds familiar.
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Holy cow, it almost feels like an Onion article:
Eventually other deviant behavior emerged. Mice who had been raised improperly or kicked out of the nest early often failed to develop healthy social bonds, and therefore struggled in adulthood with social interactions. Maladjusted females began isolating themselves like hermits in empty apartments—unusual behavior among mice. Maladjusted males, meanwhile, took to grooming all day—preening and licking themselves hour after hour. Calhoun called them “the beautiful ones.” And yet, even while obsessing over their appearance, these males had zero interest in courting females, zero interest in sex.
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My opinion on this topic is the absence of purpose. When you remove the struggle as you put it we need to have purpose outside of ourselves. We are an incredibly self centered culture and many lack purpose. When you dont have abundance your purpose is aimed at survival. We have abundance. I dont think that is the problem. The problem is that we focus on ourselves to much. Even when we are focusing on ourselves in good ways like self improvement is the purpose for a greater cause outside of ourselves?
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I've been framing our social decay as an abundance of choice leading people to an existential limbo, but I hadn't considered struggle as the solution.
How do we reintroduce struggle?
The "Mouse Utopia" experiment is apparently a real thing: https://sciencehistory.org/stories/magazine/mouse-heaven-or-mouse-hell/
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That abundance of choice is a factor. I think its a mistake to pick one cause of all ills. I suspect many factors.
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You're right, but it's more fun to try to find the largest cause.
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That link is "gold"
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There are also a lot of YouTube videos on the experiment:
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Suffering is a big word. I dont like it. But i like the general sentiment of the post. Being an adult simply means embracing the uncomfortable. But that doesent even sound right.
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Like in all things, these are self perpetuating cycles of order to chaos and chaos to order. Pain and joy are just the polar extremes of the same energy. It is the balance of energies that can hold it all together... and find your bliss.
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Of course there's a Latin phrase for this: dulcius ex asperis
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Great post!
Makes me think of this quote: “He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.” — Viktor Frankl, author of Man's Search for Meaning, holocaust survivor
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Thank you immensely, this is precisely what I needed at this moment.
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Yes, I saw Star Trek V. ;)
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Great take, I am all for self-inflicted suffering as a form of personal growth, much less when coming from ill-intentioned people or governments or else shall we thank them for trying to control our lives?
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Great words! Appreciate it, thank you🙏 "You need suffer, until you realise that you do not need to suffer anymore"
Take it easy 🤙
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It reminds me of a quote
Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create bad times. Bad times create strong men.
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Suffering builds strength, character and improves ones management of risk.
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Life inevitably involves suffering. The subtle art is determining which difficulties are worthwhile to embrace and which are needless to bear. Meaning emerges when we consciously choose to shoulder necessary hardships in alignment with our highest values. This mindset allows us to relate to suffering not as a curse, but as a redemptive part of a life well lived. With wisdom and discernment, one can hone their resilience to withstand life's trials and channel them toward purpose and virtue. Hardship thus transforms from a bitter burden into a profound pathway of growth.
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I think suffering is the wrong term here. Discomfort would be more adequate. Suffering is damaging, paralyzing even. Discomfort on the other hand moves you towards something. So I'd say embrace discomfort. :)
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Does the concept of 'Dukkha' hit the spot a little better? https://wikiless.org/wiki/Du%E1%B8%A5kha?lang=en
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